May 27, 2009, I turn 21.. getting older and getting wiser! eh? hahah
thank you baby for this cd…
my kamikazee collection..
I placed it next to our picture frames…
All my close friends know that i am a die hard fan of Kamikazee… A Filipino local band that is outrageous in therir performances… well, Universal Records releases Kamikazee’s third album Long Time Noisy featuring the launching single Wala. Long Time Noisy is the band’s follow-up of its double platinum breakthrough album Maharot.
Kamikazee was formed by five friends who met at the University of the Philippines-Diliman: Jay Contreras (lead vocals), Jomal Linao (guitars), Led Zeppelin Tuyay (guitars), Jason “Puto” Astete (bass) and Allan “Bords” Burdeos (drums).
Kamikazee took three years to construct and record Long Time Noisy as they balanced its grueling gig schedules and desire to release the best album it can possibly come up with. And it did exactly that with the new album.
Long Time Noisy is Kamikazee’s best and most consistent album. The group continues its brand of heavy rock, dosed with pop sensibilities and witty lyrical ideas. The single Wala is somewhat uncharacteristic, a cynical social commentary laden with heavy pop hooks. The album opens with two high-energy love-themed songs Ikaw (Kapirasong Langit sa Lupa) and another paean to unrequited love Hanggang Tingin (which contains one of the most headbang-inducing heavy instrumental adlibs in a love song ever). Eschoos Me is the band’s rakista anthem.
Songs such as 4:20, Unang Tikim and Hot Mami show the band’s tendency for witty double entendres while Kamikazee’s explosive cover of Francis Magalona’s Meron Akong Ano is a worth the price of admission. Lalandiin is a funky spoken word song that puts a hilarious D.O.M. twist to Mr. Suave.
The acoustic Alay has radio hit potential while tracks such as M.M.K. (Maalaala Mo Kami) and the scathing Chismosa should keep avid Kamikazee fans occupied with its funny interludes.
This is one of the articles that attracts me when I am browsing over to CNN.com . Somehow, this question strikes my ego. I do not have another boyfriend but I have many emotional affair. I have a lot of people whom I can share my feelings with. Maybe that’s the reason why there are times when me and Bimbim have misunderstanding. He easy get jealous on things that are unnecessary. You’ve hit that slump in your marriage when the passion has faded and your spouse doesn’t seem that interested in you. But one of your opposite-sex coworkers or e-mail pals gives you a lot of attention and shares things with you.
Emotional cheating (with an “office husband,” a chat room lover, or a newly appealing ex) steers clear of physical intimacy, but it does involve secrecy, deception, and therefore betrayal.
People enmeshed in nonsexual affairs preserve their “deniability,” convincing themselves they don’t have to change anything.
That’s where they’re wrong. If you think about it, it’s the breach of trust, more than the sex, that’s the most painful aspect of an affair.
Though emotional affairs have always been around, I’m seeing more of them among my clients than ever before. We’ve all grown so used to watching, reading, and hearing sexually suggestive material that there’s no longer an obvious verbal or physical line we think we’re crossing.
And the exponential growth of e-mail, instant messaging, and cell phones gives us a wealth of private ways to connect. It’s a snap to Google an old flame: What would have been idle fantasy a decade ago can, with the click of a mouse, grow into emotional (or sexual) infidelity.
We all know men and women who really are “just friends,” and there’s usually some romantic frisson, even if neither party admits it. But a healthy male-female friendship isn’t clandestine.
Once a man and woman avoid telling their partners how much time they’re spending on the friendship, make sure they look great anytime they’re going to be together, or confide more in each other, including marital dissatisfactions, than in their spouses, they’re involved in an emotional affair.
Often I’m told of a friendship that hasn’t gone that far…yet. But if the possibilities are tempting, I believe that’s the moment to look more closely at the marriage. What is each spouse missing that he or she needs?
My prescription is for them to ask directly and answer frankly, because from everything I’ve seen, when a couple can’t express their feelings, concerns, and dreams, they’re both at risk for betrayal. I frequently talk to couples in this vulnerable state, not only about how to reclaim closeness but also how to protect their relationship from third parties. Even when a marriage can’t be salvaged, I’d rather see it end amicably before either person starts up with someone new.
Three habits strike me as playing with fire: (1) flirting with others, which can become too intoxicating to give up, (2) “innocently” spending time alone with old lovers, and (3) hanging out with emotional cheaters who make what they’re doing seem like no big deal.
Increasingly, I find people are already enmeshed in an affair of the heart by the time they contact me, and they are terribly torn. They have a very hurt spouse but can’t bear to lose their “friend.” Marital implosion is close at hand.
My approach seems like tough love, but I’m convinced it saves a lot of grief. The first and most important task, from which all the other things these clients must do will follow, is to take responsibility for the affair — same as if they’d had a sexual liaison. Denying it or blaming their partner’s inattentiveness prevents the couple from re-engaging.
The only cases where it might not be best to fess up are the rare ones where the partner has no suspicions: Revealing hidden feelings just to absolve guilt is not a great idea.
Second, the affair must end. Yes, it hurts. And no, it’s not possible to disengage partway and still be pals. Things get trickier if the infidelity began in the workplace, but all future interaction must be purely professional and kept to an absolute minimum.
Third, I try to help clients unearth the reasons they got overinvolved. Was their marriage failing? Did they need to build their self-esteem? Were they repeating the pattern of a parent who cheated? To prevent an encore, they must be brutally honest with themselves.
Finally, they have to build back the trust, which is the biggest obstacle to saving the marriage. I’m constantly telling people that it requires a lot of time, openness, and accountability (for example, being clear about whereabouts and coming home right after work).
It’s much more difficult to make your way back from a betrayal of intimate feelings than to try to refresh a marriage that may have become flat and distant.
One of the most common problems I have seen with the couples that I have worked with is their tendency to assume that they know what their partner is thinking and feeling, the assumption that they know their partner’s motivation.
I have not worked with a couple yet who has struggled with this problem. And, honestly, women probably struggle more with this than men do. Men tend to assume all is good unless told otherwise. Women are forever gnawing on our relationships the way a dog gnaws on a bone.
If our partner is not speaking to us, he must be angry, hurt, thinking of another woman. When the reality is that often he is thinking about the game, work or nothing at all. Yes, ladies, it is possible for men to think of nothing. It is not possible for us, but it is possible for them. So, our husband is sitting quietly on the couch, happily thinking of nothing. In the meantime, we have decided that he is incredibly mad at us and wants a divorce. When he starts to speak about something benign, we jump all over him with all the hurt and anger we have been stirring up. This is one of the reasons that men say that they cannot understand us. We can appear a bit nuts sometimes.
So, how do we deal with this? Instead of sitting there trying to guess what is in your partner’s mind, ask him. Then accept his answer as truth. That’s it. That’s the whole trick. If there really is a problem, deal with it. Otherwise, he really is thinking about the game coming up and nothing else. He really has not been thinking about Saturday night and how angry he is with you because you wore a dress he didn’t like.
If you are wondering what is going on in your partner’s mind, ask! It is amazing how things improve after this step.
Enjoy the journey.
Most of us want to feel romantic because we want to feel special and connected to someone. Our hormones such as oxytocin elevate when we feel close, safe, warm, loved and accepted by someone we like and respect. We begin to feel a rush, a high, a free ride to la-la-land. Why wouldn’t we want that?
But you can’t force that feeling. Gifts, dinners by candlelight–or great sex–can kick-start our chemical reactions, but often these reactions crash and burn faster than we want.
If you want true romance, hang out with your partner. Do ordinary things. Go on “undates” and learn how the person handles sales people, errands, traffic, your friends and family, compromise, patience and boredom! Make your early dates similar to real life. Romance blossoms when these ordinary tasks of life become fun. And remember, do something silly and different. Laughing and doing new things can bring people closer together. Tell your partner something surprising about you. Good Luck! Send in your own tips about how you found romance.
Sure, we all dream about meeting the right person. . . the one that we are meant to be with forever. Dreaming about it is all fun and easy, but the real question is, where do you find this soul mate of yours? Fate? Well yes, if you believe in fate, then yes, it will have something to do with it, but not without effort on your part. Fate needs you to give it direction so that as a team, you can find the person you have always wanted as a part of your life.
The first thing you have to do before finding your soul mate, is finding yourself. What qualities are important to you? What are your morals and beliefs? How do you show your affection and how do you expect it to be presented to you? These are questions necessary for you to ask yourself before going out there. Giving yourself an interview will make things clearer of what type of person you are really looking for, instead of just going on a blind search.
It is very common for a person to date people just for “dating”. While dating is a fun and useful experience, it is not advisable to just go out with anyone just to have a date, or to enter a relationship because you do not want to be alone. When you go out on a date, it is important that you use that date as an opportunity to observe and see if the person is someone you would like to see again and if they carry the qualities you are looking for. If, for example, if you are searching for a person who is in touch with his or her romantic side, but go on a date with someone who likes acting rough at baseball games and loves hunting, then you could pretty much see where the relationship would go. You should be able to sense these qualities after a few dates.
Once you have realized that these dates will not lead to a relationship you have dreamed of, then obviously the person is not your dream mate either, and it would be best if you stop seeing each other to prevent any misleading expectations. Continuing to date someone just because you entered a comfort zone or do not want to hurt their feelings will only hold you back from meeting who you are really meant to be with, not to mention waste precious time for both you and your date’s. Gently break it to him or her that you find them to be a very interesting and nice person, but you feel like going solo for a while and then move on.
Tracking down your soul mate will require patience; so do not feel frustrated or hopeless if you do not find him or her in a certain amount of time. Good things take time to be brought together and you will come together when the time is right. The time becomes right when you look out for the right signs. Such signs would be:
• Being strongly attracted to each other physically.
• Being strongly attracted to each other’s personalities.
• Having common interests.
• Sharing the same values.
• Major respect for one another.
• Someone who makes you feel truly special and worthy.
• Someone who puts in a great effort to show you their passion for you and the things that is important in your life.
• Meeting on the same emotional levels.
These are some major and important signs to look out for when trying to track down your soul mate. It will not be difficult to realize because you will know when things are right and the way you want it. When you have found such a person, it is good for you to remember to take things one-step at a time. Sometimes people jump in too fast and end up getting hurt or realizing they jumped to conclusions a little too soon. Take it slow and observe how things are going. See if the person who seems to be perfect in every way for you, remains to carry the same qualities as the relationship proceeds.
When time has proven that the two of you are truly compatible in ways you have always dreamed of, then the relationship may go to the next level and the two of you can make a serious commitment and start focusing on building a future together. Like before, it is important that you pay attention to how you handle a commitment together and if you both agree on what kind of future the two of have in mind. Staying on the same levels is a huge sign that you are with the right person.
Finding your soul mate will the best accomplishment you will ever make, but it does not stop there. Finding the right person is just the beginning. Keeping the right person takes work too, on both your parts. The two of you will have to continue valuing each other for the rest of your lives, respecting each other’s individuality and dreams. Refresh your memory of how the two of were brought together and why you both decided to make a commitment to one another. As long as you keep the magic between you alive, your relationship will continue to grow the love and care you both never imagined could ever happen to you. I am lucky enough to find mine, in the person of my bimbim! ♥