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Coping With The Pain And Sadness After A Break Up
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It can be tough to deal with depression after any break up. The difficult part is knowing that you are not both together any more and she has broken your heart. There are certain steps you need to go through in order to learn how to deal with depression after breaking up. It’s going to take some time to follow these steps and follow through with them but you will get there in the end.
Ensure that do not get in touch with her. It’s the best thing all round if you keep your distance at first. You are unlikely to get over your depression if you contact her. Always keep in mind that when trying to cope with depression after breaking up, you should try not to see that person that made you depressed in the first place.
Try to chuck away items that she may have given you or any photographs featuring the two of you as a couple. It’s important that if you can’t bear to throw these things, that you store them away out of sight somewhere. Keeping these things will only serve to keep reminding you of her. Ensure that she gets any items that still remain that you haven’t thrown out. It’s important that you continue to keep your distance and don’t see her yourself to hand back the items.
You should ensure you show your emotions and don’t keep things bottled up when coping with depression following a break -up. How come there is a common misconception that men don’t cry? Either cry out the depression or write it down in your diary. There’s no doubt that you will feel vastly better when you let your feelings out. Release your feelings rather than keeping them stored up as that isn’t good for you.
It’s important that you feel content by doing things you enjoy. Take part in sports or take up some new hobby. The sole purpose is to think about something else for a while. If you are to cope with depression after a break-up then you have to focus your mind on other things. If you really want to take your mind off the break up fully then taking up a sport to challenge every aspect of yourself is potentially the perfect thing to do.
Spend time with family and head out with friends. Don’t sit around in the house but get out there and make new friends. There’s little point in sitting alone and dwelling on things as this will only serve to make the depression worse. Why don’t you head for a drink with your friends? Or maybe you can share some moments with your family? You will feel a lot better when you around those that love you, not to mention that you are improving your relationship with them. All of these are great tips when coping with depression after breaking up.
Start to focus on your future and look forward to it with a renewed positive outlook. You should always remember that just because your ex-girlfriend chose to end things with you, this doesn’t mean your life is over. Try to move forward and remember that she is not the only woman around. Finding love with someone else is definitely on cards after a break up.
These tips will help you to cope with depression after a break up. Time is a great healer when it comes to break ups, so let time heal your wounds. Your relationship with her was most probably far from perfect, but try to learn from what went wrong with it.

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Reasons why I Stay in a Painful Relationship…
Posted by adminMany of us have seen it before, the guy is cheating on the girl and they still insist on staying in the relationship. Of course, girls are not all innocent, we have witnessed girls cheating on guys before as well, yet the other partner still stays in the painful relationship. Why do they insist on staying in that painful relationship? What is the reason behind it? Below, I am going to give you my reasons why I stay in painful relationship with Raymer and then I want you to share any stories with me that you may have.
* I Can’t Let Go
Sometimes, I admit that it is hard to let go. Even if you have been dragged through hell and back, you may choose to stay in that relationship. Sometimes, these relationships can have good outcomes, but other times, it’s best to just walk away.
*I’m Afraid to Leave
Of course, sometimes, women can be afraid to leave the relationship. They are afraid what the guy will say about them, what their parents will think and what everyone else will think. I say that life is too short, if you truly do not want to be in that relationship, then it would be a good idea to find an escape. Are you interested in knowing some ways to get out of a relationship?
*Because The Guy is Charming
One minute they’re mean and the next minute they are Prince Charming. Face it, some guys are good at what they are doing and this is one of the reasons why a woman would stay in a painful relationship.
*Social Reasons
Some women stay in painful relationship because of social reasons. This is true when the woman and the man share the same friends. They feel that if they end the relationship, they will have to get new friends.
* Both are Afraid
I may not get out of that relationship because I’m afraid of what will happen if he were to leave. We have all witnessed it in movies, women sometimes leave and end up getting hurt.
* No Place to Go
I don’t have any place to go and I do not know what to do. I do not have a home and do not know where to turn.
*I Think it’s My Fault
From time to time, I think that I caused the problems. I think the reasons my husband cheated on me is because I did not spend enough time with him or did not do something right. Therefore, I believe it’s my fault.
*My baby
We all know that one of the main reasons why I stay in this relationship when there is pain is because of my baby. I do not want my baby to go through a divorce and I will admit that children can be traumatized by a divorce.
Those are reasons why I stay in painful relationships. If you know of any other reasons, then please share them with me, because I know they exist.
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I’m back…
Posted by adminI will activate my blog once again..
I haven’t post anything since last April.
I was busy with my work, got no enough time to blog.
But I can’t help myself.
I love to blog.
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7 Ways to Get Your Ex Back
Posted by adminRelationships are made of fragile bonds. They need to be continually nurtured and respected in order to grow. In a relationship, your partner and you are responsible for providing value to the other half and if you don’t, sometimes these bonds break. If you however feel that you are still in love with your ex after the breakup, it is time to get them back. I am a girl, so I will be writing this from a girl’s perspective. However, I am sure some of these tips will be useful for guys as well. Below, you are going to find 7 ways to get your ex back…
7. Stay strong
No matter what you do, it is important that you stay strong. You should never come off as being needy. Clinging, begging and acting desperate is a big break-up no-no. This will more than likely chase him off, instead of attract him back. I am not saying that breakups are easy, I personally know that they are tough, but you should keep the crying and yelling behind closed doors.
6. Minimize your contact with him
Closing those doors of communication may seem like they are not going to do any justice for you, but they will. This is one of the most important steps. There is a reason that the two of you have reached this point and obviously, someone here needs a break. Give your ex some space and time to clear his mind. Sometimes, starting over is the best thing you can do.
5. You need to be flexible
This is not time to start barking out orders such as “pick up your things by Monday or I am going to throw them out.” You are wrong if you are under the impression that you are going to be scaring them to the point that they will return to you. Take note that your ex went away from you because they were unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. This probably means that it is time for you to become a listener and pay more attention to his needs. That’s one way to build the foundation for a successful relationship.
4. Get out of your room
It is time to turn off the broken heart songs, lift yourself up off of that bed or couch and go out and have some fun! Give those old friends a ring and get yourself out of the house. You need to develop other forms of entertainment and stop worrying. This does not mean you have to go out and start dating again. You don’t even have to be interested in anyone. The key here is to have fun with friends and family and stop being depressed.
3. Figure out what went wrong
Now is the time to sit by yourself and figure out what went wrong. Unless you can understand what led to the downfall of the two of you, how can you set things right? What made the first couple of weeks or months together so special? Why did you feel so strongly when it was a new relationship and when did it fizzle out? Try to pinpoint exactly what changed in your relationship.
2. Be honest with him
If you still love him, then tell him this at least one time. Honesty is always going to pay off. Even if he does not say anything back, he will still know that you love and care about him. This is something that will stay in his mind. If it is meant to be, then he will remember this.
1. Show respect
Of course, when you are trying to get an ex back, you will need to show respect, no matter what sex you are. Having respect for another person is showing them that you still care. Don’t go throwing their stuff out, have respect for their stuff as well. Sure, you can put it in a box and stuff it in your closet so that you do not think of them 24/7, but remember girls, respect them. Do not go up to them in public and start yelling at them. Do not complain and whine about them to your friends. Leave aside the petty issues and jealousy. Remember that you have both wronged each other so take responsibility for your mistakes.
Getting your ex back in a relationship can be a tough job. However, if you find that you do not succeed at it, then don’t let this get you down. If he does not come back to you, then this obviously means that it is not meant to be. It is time to move on and overcome the breakup, girl. What about you, are you hurting and need to get your ex back badly? How long have you had those horrible break up blues? Have you ever gotten back together with an ex? How did you do it?
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How to Make Your Marriage Affair-Proof
Posted by adminWe’ve all heard it before: horror stories of married couples breaking off their supposedly permanent relationships because one party had an affair.
What if you have been trying your best to make your marriage work? Is there really a foolproof way to ensure that you or your husband would not be having an affair?
Take a look at some of the tips that I gathered on how you can make your marriage affair-proof:
Nurture your own friendships, and allow him to have his.
You may be tagged as a couple when you get married, but you are still separate individuals with separate interests. If he can’t live without golf or bi-weekly poker nights with the guys, let him do so. Similarly, keep your own circle of friends so that you can do the activities that you’re sure he will never get into.
This way, you’ll have more freedom to become separate individuals while harnessing your marriage at the same time.
Go on dates.
Even if you’re already married, go on dates as if you were still on the boyfriend-girlfriend phase. This is especially true if you have kids to take care of. Having some quality dates together will bring back the romance in your relationship.
Be with other happy couples.
It’s much more tempting for you or your husband to stray if you hang out with singles who are still in the dating scene and who find the word commitment foreign. When you’re with another happy couple – you’ll have a deeper appreciation of the bond that you have as husband and wife.
If temptation is right in front of you – talk about your spouse.
I remember the movie “Knocked Up” where Katherine Heigl’s sister in the movie was approached by a guy in a bar. She sort of blurted out that she’s married – so it immediately killed off the guy’s advances. Isn’t that the best way to ward off a potential affair? Never pretend to be someone that you’re not and you won’t be tempted to try out other’s flavors, so to speak.
It may be harder than it looks, but you do need to put a lot of work into making your marriage affair-proof. Just imagine how it will break your entire family’s heart if things get bad because of an affair that’s not even worth it in the first place.
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Love Hate Relationships
Posted by adminOne should always keep in mind the fact, that love is the most important factor for a relationship to last till the end. It could be said in other words that every relationship demands love. A far as the term, Love Hate Relationship, is concerned, it is important to note that this term can be used to define all those kinds of relationships, where the couple harbors the feelings of love and enmity towards the each other.
A Love Hate Relationship comes into existence when two people who were deeply in love with each other develops a feeling of hatred towards each other due to some reason or the other but is not being able to bid farewell to this relationship due to the affection or fondness that they had developed for one another in the years that they have been together.
A Love Hate Relationship develops when the realization dawns on a person that he/she does not enjoy his/her partner’s company and would prefer to call off the relationship and it is this feeling that gives rise to conflicts between a couple.
The couple therefore does not waver to express their hatred towards each other at the slightest opportunity that they get.
The word love comes into the frame, when inspite of all disputes the couple tries to the best of their ability to make their relationship work by remembering those happy as well as those special moments that they have spend together.
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10 Tips on How to Experience Mind Blowing Quickies …
Posted by admin1. Use lube! Saving time means skipping some of the foreplay, so make sure you’ve got some non oil-based lube nearby to keep things pain free!
2. Do some planning.. While you might feel spontaneous is better, a little planning can go a long way. Make sure you are wearing a skirt, and if your feeling risky, how about adding crotchless panties? They are sure to drive him wild and save time!
3. Kiss! While you might be in a hurry, there is no need to cut out all the romance. A long, passionate kiss is perfect for making sure everyone is in the right mood.
4. Feed his ego… Tell him you’ve been looking forward to seeing him, or exactly what you’d like to do to him…whatever you have to say, boosting his ego will make him eager to impress!
5. Forget candles… Part of the passion is the unplanned, unromantic environment, so forget candles and soft music, and think ad breaks and while the tea cooks instead!
7. Think positions… Some people enjoy doggie, some love girl on top. Think about which way you, and him, get the most pleasure. Remember you are aiming for speed!
8. Balance! While you don’t need to cuddle for hours, don’t start ignoring him either. If you are both rushing out, make sure you share a kiss on the way out the door. If you’re watching TV, put your arm around him.
9. Don’t make it a habit… While quickies are healthy, they shouldn’t be your whole sex life. Take some time for slow, romantic sessions too or you might start feeling neglected.
10. Have fun! The quickie will be a success if it works for you, so do what feels good and go with the flow. It’ll be worth it!! So next time you’ve got five minutes to spare, you know exactly what to do, wherever you are! Just remember to have fun, and to practise safe sex. Babies really get in the way of a good sex life! Have you got a tip for an amazing quickie?
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10 Ways to Deal With a Jealous Boyfriend …
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So you and your boyfriend have been going together for a while now. You’re both infatuated with one another and having the time of your lives when suddenly the old green eyed monster appears and takes its toll! Have you ever had a jealous boyfriend? Dealing with jealously in a relationship is a problem known to millions across the world. Below are some great tips on how to deal with a jealous boyfriend in particular.
1. Don’t Deal A relationship is supposed to be built on trust. If your boyfriend is acting jealous without a good reason then maybe the best thing to do is move on to prevent yourself from having to deal with the baggage.
2. Accepting The Issue Ask yourself if you really love him. If you do love him and want the relationship to work then you’re going to have to learn to accept his insecurity and find ways to change it. You’re going to have to accept it considering you knew it before you got too involved. Accepting it means not yelling or arguing about it with your boyfriend.
3. What Is The Issue? You can’t fix a problem until you figure out what the problem is! Why is he jealous? Did he have a troubled childhood and is needing to feel accepted? Did he have a bad past relationship and wants to prevent the same things from reoccurring? Try to find out where the problem lies.
4. Listen To Him With determining the problem you’re going to have to listen. You’re never going to understand why he is jealous unless you listen to what he has to say. In turn this will help you learn more about your jealous boyfriend and how to handle his insecurities.
5. Talk About It Arguing is only going to make the situation worst. He is ultimately jealous due to his fear of you leaving him. If you express your feelings assertively to him and not aggressively there is a good chance his attitude will change in your favor.
6. Be Open With Him Don’t hide things from him. Hiding things from one another will only create a tension that in turn will cause friction like him being a jealous boyfriend. It’s always best to be honest and open about how you feel to prevent any surprises or arguments in the future.
7. Set Relationship Rules This works Vice Versa! Establishing a set of ground rules in a relationship is a good way to allow the other the knowledge of knowing what buttons not to press! If the couple truly cares about one another and follows the set rules it will prevent a lot of arguments!
8. Build His Confidence Make him feel good about himself! Hearing compliments from you and understanding that you truly care about him will make him start to feel more confident With his new found confidence he will start to see other situations as less of a threat to his bond with you.
9. Involve Him Involve him in your life. Involving him in more aspects of your life will show him he has no reason to be paranoid.
10. Reverse Psychology If you have tried everything you can think of and all has failed try giving him a dose of his own medicine. Act jealous for stupid reasons. After he is showing signs that you’re actions are bothering him explain to him that’s how you feel when he acts that way. Maybe then he will see how silly he was acting and change for the better.
Now that you have some tips on how to deal with a jealous boyfriend it’s time for you to go out and take action! After all you don’t want to lose him and you want to make it work right? Try some of these tips on your over jealous boyfriend and come back to share the success of your efforts.
I would love to hear everyone’s opinions!
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10 Signs He’s Playing Games …
Posted by admin1. He always calls at the last minute.
If he calls and asks you to go out at the last minute, then you might not have been his first choice — someone else may have cancelled on him, so now he’s asking you. Why else would he call you at six o’clock on a Friday evening and ask if you want to go out that same night? A guy who wasn’t playing games wouldn’t dare wait until the last minute to ask you out on a Friday night!
2. He never wants to go out.
Does he ask you to come over, or want to come to your place, but never wants to actually go out anywhere? Then he might be hiding. If he’s seeing another girl, then he might be afraid to run into her or her friends if you go out.
3. He’s always sending calls to voicemail.
If he constantly sends his calls to voicemail when you’re together, or he’s getting and ignoring a lot of text messa, he might be avoiding someone — like his girlfriend.
4. He doesn’t want you to meet his friends.
A guy who is serious about you will want to introduce you to his friends and family, and will want to meet yours.
5. He doesn’t want you to stay.
If he never wants you to stay the night, or to stay at your place overnight, he might have somewhere else, or someone else, he needs to spend the night with. Like a wife or girlfriend.
6. He freaks if you leave anything behind.
If he does let you stay the night, but freaks out when you leave a bobby pin or an earring or a t-shirt, then he might be worried another girl will see those things. Otherwise, what guy would even notice if you left a hair pin behind?
7. He’s hot and cold.
One day, he seems deeply in love, crazy about you, totally into you. The next time you see him, he’s standoffish and distant. This is a sure sign of a guy who is playing games with you.
8. He won’t call you his girlfriend.
If he won’t call you his girlfriend, or introduce you as his girlfriend, then he doesn’t see you as his girlfriend. He sees you as someone he’s casually dating, or as just a friend with benefits.
9. He never talks about the future.
If you can’t pin him down on plans for the holidays or spring break or even next weekend, then he probably doesn’t see you in his life for that long. Player! Time to move on!
10. He doesn’t share.
You tell him everything, your hopes and dreams, your favorite color, EVERYTHING. But he won’t tell you anything! Is he mysterious, or a game-player? You guessed it. He’s probably playing games.
So annoying, right, ladies? I hate it when guys play games! But for every guy who’s a player, there’s another guy behind him who is courteous, gorgeous, AND into you! So move on!


